[CUDA graphs] Error if attempting to capture uncapturable nccl (#64440)

[CUDA graphs] Error if attempting to capture uncapturable nccl (#64440)

Summary:
NCCL < 2.9.6 is not capturable. Attempting to capture it can cause nasty behavior (for example, ive seen capture succeed, but replay silently hang). Pytorch should preempt this with a friendlier error.

cc pietern mrshenli pritamdamania87 zhaojuanmao satgera rohan-varma gqchen aazzolini osalpekar jiayisuse agolynski SciPioneer H-Huang mrzzd cbalioglu gcramer23

Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/64440

Reviewed By: mruberry

Differential Revision: D30733884

Pulled By: ngimel

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