buffer: unify buffer merge methods

buffer: unify buffer merge methods

Add gst_buffer_append() which appends the memory blocks from one buffer to
another. Remove the old inefficient _merge() and _join() methods which forced a
premature memcpy in most cases.
Remove the _is_span() and _span() methods they are not needed anymore now that
we can _append(). Merging and spanning will be delayed until mapping or maybe
not at all when the element can deal with the different memory blocks.