RDMA/rxe: Fix missing memory barriers in rxe_queue.h

RDMA/rxe: Fix missing memory barriers in rxe_queue.h

An earlier patch which introduced smp_load_acquire/smp_store_release
into rxe_queue.h incorrectly assumed that surrounding spin-locks in
rxe_verbs.c around queue updates for kernel ulps was sufficient to
protect the passing of data through the queues between the ulp and
the rxe tasklets. But this was incorrect. The typical sequence was

	ulp				rxe requester tasklet
	------------------------	---------------------
	spin_lock_irqsave()		wqe = queue_head(queue)
	if (!queue_full(q)) {		if (!wqe)
		spin_unlock_irqrestore		return;
		return -ENOMEM
	}				<process wqe>
	wqe = queue_producer_addr(q)
	<fill in wqe>			queue_advance_consumer(queue)
	queue_advance_producer(q)
	spin_unlock_irqrestore()

queue_head() calls queue_empty() which calls smp_load_acquire()
For user space apps queue_advance_producer() calls smp_store_release()
so that there is a memory barrier between the producer and the
consumer but for kernel ulps queue_advance_produce() just incremented
the producer index because the lock function is a release function.
But to work the barrier has to come between filling in the wqe and
updating the producer index. This patch adds the missing barriers.
It also changes the enum names for the ulp queue types to
	QUEUE_TYPE_FROM/TO_ULP instead of QUEUE_TYPE_TO/FROM_DRIVER
which is very ambiguous. This bug is suspected as the cause of very
rare lockups in a very high scale storage application. It is a bug
in any case and should be corrected.

Fixes: 0a67c46d2e99 ("RDMA/rxe: Protect user space index loads/stores")
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230214071053.5395-1-rpearsonhpe@gmail.com
Signed-off-by: Bob Pearson <rpearsonhpe@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>