Race-condition fix with free_waiter threads during shutdown.

Race-condition fix with free_waiter threads during shutdown.

When we shutdown, the main process locks the mutex, causing
all of the free_waiter functions to pile up on their lock.
Once we unlock in the main process, all of the free_waiters
start working. However the next instruction in the main proces
is to destroy the mutex. The short window is all the free_waiter
threads have to do their cleanup before they attempt to unlock
the mutex - which might have been de-allocated (and set to NULL).
End result can be a seg-fault.

This fix adds a ref-count to the mutex so that during shutdown
we spin and wait until all of the free_waiter functions
have completed and the ref-count is set to zero.