test: fix pummel/test-net-connect-memleak

test: fix pummel/test-net-connect-memleak

* Run the garbage collector before creating the big array. It doesn't
  matter now but if in the future something in node.js core creates
  a lot of reclaimable garbage, that will break the test's expectation.

* The first RSS check was being done too late. The garbage collector
  might have run before the check, throwing off the 'reclaimed memory'
  calculation.

* Due to changes in how V8 represents the big array internally, the
  actual memory usage is just below 256 MB on x64. Update the test's
  expectation.