[libc++] Divorce the std Lit feature from the -std=XXX compiler flag

[libc++] Divorce the std Lit feature from the -std=XXX compiler flag

After this patch, we can use `--param std=c++20` even if the compiler only
supports -std=c++2a. The test suite will handle that for us. The only Lit
feature that isn't fully baked will always be the "in development" one,
since we don't know exactly what year the standard will be ratified in.

This is another take on https://reviews.llvm.org/D99789.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D100210