RDMA/cm: Allow ib_send_cm_rej() to be done under lock

RDMA/cm: Allow ib_send_cm_rej() to be done under lock

The first thing ib_send_cm_rej() does is obtain the lock, so use the usual
unlocked wrapper, locked actor pattern here.

This avoids a sketchy lock/unlock sequence (which could allow state to
change) during cm_destroy_id().

While here simplify some of the logic in the implementation.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20200310092545.251365-14-leon@kernel.org
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>