bpf, test_run: fix &xdp_frame misplacement for LIVE_FRAMES

bpf, test_run: fix &xdp_frame misplacement for LIVE_FRAMES

&xdp_buff and &xdp_frame are bound in a way that

xdp_buff->data_hard_start == xdp_frame

It's always the case and e.g. xdp_convert_buff_to_frame() relies on
this.
IOW, the following:

	for (u32 i = 0; i < 0xdead; i++) {
		xdpf = xdp_convert_buff_to_frame(&xdp);
		xdp_convert_frame_to_buff(xdpf, &xdp);
	}

shouldn't ever modify @xdpf's contents or the pointer itself.
However, "live packet" code wrongly treats &xdp_frame as part of its
context placed *before* the data_hard_start. With such flow,
data_hard_start is sizeof(*xdpf) off to the right and no longer points
to the XDP frame.

Instead of replacing `sizeof(ctx)` with `offsetof(ctx, xdpf)` in several
places and praying that there are no more miscalcs left somewhere in the
code, unionize ::frm with ::data in a flex array, so that both starts
pointing to the actual data_hard_start and the XDP frame actually starts
being a part of it, i.e. a part of the headroom, not the context.
A nice side effect is that the maximum frame size for this mode gets
increased by 40 bytes, as xdp_buff::frame_sz includes everything from
data_hard_start (-> includes xdpf already) to the end of XDP/skb shared
info.
Also update %MAX_PKT_SIZE accordingly in the selftests code. Leave it
hardcoded for 64 bit && 4k pages, it can be made more flexible later on.

Minor: align `&head->data` with how `head->frm` is assigned for
consistency.
Minor #2: rename 'frm' to 'frame' in &xdp_page_head while at it for
clarity.

(was found while testing XDP traffic generator on ice, which calls
 xdp_convert_frame_to_buff() for each XDP frame)

Fixes: b530e9e1063e ("bpf: Add "live packet" mode for XDP in BPF_PROG_RUN")
Acked-by: Toke Høiland-Jørgensen <toke@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexander Lobakin <aleksander.lobakin@intel.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230224163607.2994755-1-aleksander.lobakin@intel.com
Signed-off-by: Martin KaFai Lau <martin.lau@kernel.org>