[DAGCombiner][TLI] Do not fuse bitcast to <1 x ?> into a load/store of a vector

[DAGCombiner][TLI] Do not fuse bitcast to <1 x ?> into a load/store of a vector

Single-element vectors are legalized by splitting,
so the the memory operations would also get scalarized.
While we do have some support to reconstruct scalarized loads,
we clearly don't catch everything.

The comment for the affected AArch64 store suggests that
having two stores was the desired outcome in the first place.

This was showing as a source of *many* regressions
with more aggressive ZERO_EXTEND_VECTOR_INREG recognition.