[IR] Return AAMDNodes from Instruction::getMetadata() (NFC)

[IR] Return AAMDNodes from Instruction::getMetadata() (NFC)

getMetadata() currently uses a weird API where it populates a
structure passed to it, and optionally merges into it. Instead,
we can return the AAMDNodes and provide a separate merge() API.
This makes usages more compact.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D109852